Must a couple know about each other before they marry and move into a home together? What if one person has some deep dark secrets that might make the other partner uncomfortable? These are questions that more couples are asking themselves as they grow more comfortable with one another before they say I do.
Join us as we explore what it means to live together. This includes if you must know everything about your partner before marriage. It also includes how you to build trust in your relationship before you say I do.
Understanding Each Other Before You Say I Do
1. Understand each other’s values.
Before committing to living with someone, it’s important to understand how your partner feels about certain things. For example, if you’re a vegetarian but you are marrying a hunter who has no problem hanging deer heads on the walls, that’s an important consideration. Therefore, knowing each other’s values is vital before moving in together.
2. Build trust.
Let’s face it, moving in with someone is a huge step. In fact, there’s no way around spending more time together than ever before. So, if they have skeletons in their closet, sooner or later, it comes out.
In fact, there might be some things about their past that a person does not marry into. Also, what about the prenup? What is a prenup? A prenup might make one think long and hard before walking down the aisle.
Moving in with someone is a big step and requires trust from both partners. Of course, moving into a home together will only help build that trust if both people are willing to share their past issues.
3. Know what kind of person you plan to live with.
The answer to this question is that both partners must be willing to work for the relationship. We all hear stories about couples who move in together and then marry only for one person to find out that they’re now stuck with a spouse who’s a total stranger.
Really getting to know someone before marriage helps you determine if your partner is someone with whom you want to spend the rest of your life. If this person has secrets, you will learn them soon enough. Either way, it is an exciting conversation down the road.
4. Get to know your partner’s family.
If you plan to spend the rest of your life with someone, then it makes sense that eventually they will be in your family. So why not start getting to know them now?
Some families are strict and religious. Therefore, and moving in with their child might cause issues when they ask you to respect their family traditions.
If you plan on spending the rest of your life with someone, then it only makes sense that eventually, they’ll be in your family, so why not start getting to know them now?
5. Learn their quirks.
Everyone has little quirky things that they do. It might be the way they eat or getting up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. The best thing about living together is you get to see all those little habits, and if they bother you, then now is a good time for both people to discuss them.
For example, if you don’t feel comfortable asking your partner to change their bedtime routines before you marry, then all it takes is a few nights of poor sleep for the honeymoon period to come crashing down.
6. Learn your partner’s financial habits.
I don’t know anyone who enjoys talking about money, especially when sharing expenses with another person. Still, it is best to get comfortable discussing how much everything costs and what bills need to be paid by which party.
This makes life together a lot easier. It only takes one person to end up in debt with bad credit for a relationship to implode. So, why not get on the same page about money before getting married and moving into a home together?
7. The experience of living with each other.
This is one reason that a lot of people give for wanting to live together. Sure, it’s nice to save money on rent, but you’ll be surprised at how much more complicated things can get when your partner isn’t responsible enough to take care of all their stuff and ends up leaving clothes in piles on the floor or dishes in the sink.
If you’re thinking about tying the knot, there’s no reason to waste time living together beforehand. If not, then it can be a great way to get experience dealing with difficult situations that will eventually arise after you marry.
8. Don’t ask to “keep some space”.
Some people are afraid of commitment and try their best to not let you get too close. The sooner these types of partners realize that they’re cheating by trying to hide who they are, the sooner this relationship moves forward in a healthier way.
Suppose your partner keeps asking for or refuses to introduce you to their friends and family. In that case, this means is that they’re not ready for a relationship with anyone.
Use these tips to build a good relationship before saying I do. Here’s to your happily ever after! If you have any questions or suggestions, we always love to hear from you in the comments below. Also below are links to more fantastic articles about ALL things DESIGN for your home or business.
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